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Jan 14, 2023·edited Jan 14, 2023Author

Surprised. They expect people in pain to be very surprised by this new and different sensation. Otherwise they don't buy it. We must be lying even if it's also affecting our sleep, appetite, and emotional stability. Chronic pain patients are not supposed to make long-term adjustments to being in untreated pain. I can't imagine how insane I'd be today if I didn't know that I had a malformation causing the pain. If I believed I was just overly sensitive for no reason or attention seeking like some medical providers have tried to persuade me. People need to know where the pain is coming from and we need pain management. Pain is real and physical. It's a drug in its own sense.

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God Bless. I suffer from vaginal pain. My mother was an ad writer for tampax, so at age 14 she tried to teach me how to use tampons because I loved swimming and desperately wanted to be able to swim during my periods. (otherwise the pad ends up soaked and sort of disgusting) So my mother demonstrated. Tampon disappears somewhere inside her body--magic trick, I don't know how it happened. The big problem is that the female vagina is not a tube that goes straight up. We are not lollipops. To insert something (finger, suppository, penis, etc.) one must angle the penetrating object at an angle going back. However, I did not know this. Evidently, neither did my mother. We kept pushing straight up where the tampon (and those sharp cardboard edges) would push against the front wall. Note I was raised never to masturbate or touch myself so I had zero knowledge of how I worked. I always found inserting anything into my vagina (including a penis) very painful. Pain disappears once object gets further back, but it really makes sexual behavior painful. Years later in my 50's a gynecological surgeon stated that he detected scar tissue that was the cause of the pain. He seemed, indeed, knowledgeable because he could insert exploratory fingers without any pain. However, when he learned that my husband and I were not sexually active (husband declined sex because of diabetes making potency difficult also a source of shame) surgeon turned away in disgust. What's the point? As if the only use of females was to provide sexual pleasure for males. Otherwise not worth treating their pain. I always wondered if the tampax debacle was the cause of my subsequent pain. Thanks Exulansic for helping me feel better about being female. And also being in pain.

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I shut down when I’m in pain. I get very quiet and compliant. This led to an accidental unattended birth in the bathroom of the hospital because just by talking to me briefly the nurse assumed I wasn’t in pain (I was writhing internally)

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I walked around (best I could) for 4 days on a broken ankle because when I presented at the emergency dept after getting injured the nurse said it was only a bad sprain. She said if it was broken I wouldn't be able to bear the pain of weight bearing on it.

Four days later I drove myself to another hospital and begged for an Xray. After getting the Xray the radiologist wouldn't allow me to get off the table as I had to put into a wheelchair to be taken to where my broken ankle was set in a cast.

Some people can be more stoic with pain and some Nurses are really bad at judging how some people cope with pain.

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diagnosis before prognosis. Then work backwards to select what supports your opinion. Thats how Alec operates and the Nurse who wrongly designated me.

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Jan 15, 2023Liked by Exulansic

I was once dismissed as a drug seeker, for no reason other than than the doctor's opinion of me, and sent away. With a broken leg.

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I've got a real strong but still unsubstantiated hunch that "nursing school" is embellished vocational nursing assistant school.

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And female wanna-be males worship at the Pagan Cult of the Phallus.

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DING DING DING We have a winner

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Another instance where pain has physiological consequences. My husband was a premature baby who narrowly avoided open heart surgery at a time when they didn’t anesthetize newborns for surgery because they believed the risks outweighed the benefit as newborns were unable to feel pain.

Then a surgeon tried anesthetizing them and found lower blood pressures, lower hear rates and better outcomes.

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I would not be comfortable with that guy as a nurse. Nevermind credentials, his behavior makes me concerned for anyone who would be in his care. These glimpses into his personality remind of all those stories about male caretakers who abuse their patients. A lot of guys go into nursing school with the intention of moving directly into management, so the actual treatment and care part of the job isn't at the forefront of their attention.

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His apparent lack of differentiation between nursing and med school makes me wonder if he went to nursing assistant vocational school and plays up his credentials online, not understanding the seriousness of that.

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Jan 14, 2023Liked by Exulansic

Yes, but have you considered none of that matters because that's not the desired outcome he wants? 😂

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Did I tell you he's a nurse's aide? Found him on a roster with a Google search.

I think he's a gamp, too.

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That explains a lot twice over.

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I FUCKING KNEW IT PLEASE SEND IT TO ME Ttx2215@gmail.com

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He's playing a game while he is listening to ex, he is rude arrogant and his "thousand of trans" studies, when none of them really scientifically exist, and his non acceptance of the truth is horrendously ignorant. I cannot watch such a rude ignorant twat

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There are no studies of "thousands of people" in transgender medicine, even the much vaunted Dutch study, there were only hundreds.

As far as I know, the most objective work done on the highest number of children with gender dysphoria was done by Dr. Ken Zucker and Susan Bradley in Toronto. They concluded that 80 - 90% of children who claim to be trans will become happy in their bodies and gay if they're made to wait a few years.

Zucker was attacked by the trans lobby, defamed and drummed out of Canadian medicine. He sued his former employer and won. I don't know what happened to Bradley. But basically, if you do the science and report the results you are attacked by goons like this asshole.

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Jan 15, 2023Liked by Exulansic

Agreed. But you can't explain colour to the blind. And this goon is very blinded by his own arrogance. Did he go to med school or nursing school? Because his ignorance and aggressive narcissist personality, combined with his lack of manners, means I would not let him near a child or adult who needed treatment

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A ccording to him he spent time in both medical and nursing school and became a nurse. I believe he said he has a Master's.

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Jan 15, 2023Liked by Exulansic

In gaming? A little knowledge is a dangerous thing and in his case it definitely is

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It does bother me that he plays a background of a video game. It's so disturbing to me to have the non serious aggressive video game (shooting, jerky movements, distracting my attention) while he is supposedly supporting sex change surgery for children with scientific data, but behaving in emotional, angry way if Exulansic disputes his claims. He is a useful idiot for big Pharma and big Surgery.

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Jan 14, 2023Liked by Exulansic

Yet again such a mega dose of male arrogance--

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Makes me definitely want a sex change so I can be just like him. NOT.

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Interrupt, overtalk, contradict. Such a gentleman.

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Jan 15, 2023Liked by Exulansic

I am quite fascinated by how confident men are in their ignorance.

Thank you, Exulansic.

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Talking to this guy is like talking to a dog with a poop eating problem. It doesn't matter how much sense you make, when you're done talking he's just going to go back to eating his own turds as soon as you're done.

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