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I’m disappointed to see infighting in this community but after a lifetime of dealing with people I can say that I’m not surprised. The GREEN MONSTER is alive and it’s always ugly.

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Sorry this person did this to you. Looks like the trash is taking itself out.

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Women are being recorded secretly in public bathrooms these days. I have no real control over this, and so I just go about my business. Anything can be taken out of context, and audio can be manipulated. I’m sorry to hear this, but several weeks ago I just realized that I can’t stop illegal activity like that. Warning others is the most ethical thing to do, I think. Thanks for having our backs! ☮️❤️🐾

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Yes as well as by partners in intimate moments. It is hard to know who can be trusted and important to remember there's different levels of trust. Having a friendly working relationship with a colleague and being friends are very different.

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So incredibly sorry this happened to you. It is truly disturbing that people use our shared humanity to try to humiliate others. This says much about her and nothing about you. Thanks for the warning.

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I loathe drama and this person is clearly making some

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So is this person going to 'expose' you as a TERF? Pathetic. They really think they're in a spy movie, these idiots.

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I don't understand it because our politics are supposedly similar. .

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The wonderful world of mental illness (I can say that, I'm mentally ill myself...)

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Nice one, Exulansic. I'm impressed by the way you dealt with this head-on - the proper way to deal with bullies. You showed her bullying tactics up for the pathetic ploy they are.

Unfortunately, I believe this type of thing is par for the course in groups of severely traumatised people. I am part of a different online community of drug-injured people, and I've seen this type of paranoid tirade before. It is part of the process for some people, to have to work through several levels of misdirected emotion before they really get down to acceptance and healing.

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Ouch, the paranoia... She "befriended" you fakely and was looking for that moment when you'd "reveal yourself", and in that moment when you mentioned her and how you'd talked and she misinterpreted it, she got all giddy and excited because she was right and she was gonna tell the world, finally! She would get her revenge, muahahahaa!! Sounds unwell

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It’s not really worth getting involved in internet spats imo. Keep doing what you’re doing. Being called a Nazi is a compliment these days, it means your opponent has lost and is resorting to untruths and insults, but it also means the fight probably wasn’t worth fighting, if that’s all they’ve got.

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I'm sorry this happened to you ex, those that need help often try to push away the offered help because they are not capable of seeing it for the altruistic help that it is. Stay strong ex, you are a fount of information in a dark world

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yes this recording of convos is pernicious - in work or out of work. But how would anyone know? In the end trolls gonna troll n life is too short to spend defending your 'rep' from deluded followers.

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Sigh. Hope you're okay xxxxx

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I'm sorry this happened to you. The scorched earth approach to internal disagreements is disappointing. It's difficult to constructively discuss problems or address misunderstandings when strong feelings override reason. Starting with the entire grass widow situation I have been losing faith in our ability to address our shared goal. We have a hard enough time with a system that is constructed and used against us. The collateral damage to trust with character sabotage from people we need to rely on is a needless, self-inflicted handicap.

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I am not familiar with this person, but I know you have been an honest caring person and do not deserve this treatment. I will continue to support you and do so financially again when I am able.

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DARVO much?

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You handled it beautifully, Ex. These stupid internet dramas are tempests in teapots, but they are darned painful when you're the one being attacked. But your video shows that you are a calm rational woman, and she looks like the mentally disturbed bully that she is. I hope she can get some help, but if she attacks anyone who tries to help her, pretty dim prospect for that.

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