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Tragic and preventable

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Frankie Goes To Porn Hollywood

Relax, don't do it

When you want to suck it, chew it

Relax, don't do it

When you want to come

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It’s all really sad.

Frankie, if you’re reading this, I wish you the best and sincerely hope you manage to find peaceful life after all of this. You never know what future might bring.

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Okay, I'm going to ask. Do these women have the usually too large, weird, fake phalluses? What do they do in porn? I'm not looking, but I want to know.

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I know, right? MtF porn has been a thing for a long time (not my thing but I've seen that category on porn sites). Maybe with the exponential rise in FtM IDing people there would now be an audience for that kind of porn, too?

I wonder who watches this type of porn. Other trans men? Like, imagining themselves in that role?

Anyway, both Frankie and "Apollo" are examples of trans identifying women having larger mental health problems.

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My guess is that heterosexual men watch porn with "transmen" in it, just as they watch porn with anorexic women, morbidly obese women, developmentally disabled women, women with amputated limbs, etc. Some sadistic men get off on viewing historical photos of emaciated women, dead and alive, who were in WW2 concentration camps. There is no end to what will turn some men on. Remember than some men like to have intercourse with corpses! Seemingly anything can become a male paraphilia.

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Oh, absolutely. Men's fetishes have the capacity to be exceptionally deviant, dangerous and destructive.

Yet we shouldn't underestimate the rewiring of female brains that is happening as a result of early exposure to porn and the spread of hyper-sexualised online subcultures. Add to this the effect of testosterone on female physiology and you can see why we are where we're at.

It's also the case that women under 35 are likelier to consume porn regularly than previous generations. "Queer" porn and amateur-style "kink" seem to be categories with not-insignificant numbers of female consumers and increasingly creators, especially gen Z. Fan fic is also getting very explicit and extreme in its descriptions of sex.

The point is this: we need to be alert to the fact that some women are transitioning (or modifying their bodies) for what are essentially sexual motives -- and by this I mean, not because they are trying to achieve a man's ideal of who they should be sexually (as is the case with, say, women who adopt bimbo or Kardashian-style aesthetics) but because they get off on seeing themselves embody male-typical sexual roles or male-typical physical traits.

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Well, we are certainly going to find out. The clearest result so far is that many girls and young women think that sex is supposed to be what they see in porn and that they are supposed to enjoy things like strangulation, being urinated on, and other things antithetical to loving, caring, female-pleasurable relationships. It is also contributing to why girls do not want to be women since they do not want to be abused as they see women being abused in porn portrayals of sex.

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A detransitioner (natal female) just contacted me to start telling her story. She says the T injections damaged her legs (the site of the injections) and now in her 20s, she has to use a walker. Fortunately, she never had surgeries. I wonder if there are any stories of recovery that will give her hope? She found religion, a common path, in my observation. These suicides by intentional car crashes are just terrible. What if they took someone else along?

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I believe that injection site necrosis and atrophy is why I have so much right hip pain. It's like a muscle is not working. Doctors are pretty dismissive but a soft hip brace that transfers some of the work of forward rotation of walking to other muscles makes it feel a lot better at the end of the day.

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I wonder if acupuncture or Feldenkrais physical therapy would be at all helpful?

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how horrible!

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Tragic situation!

Also:

"I argue it is what it is: an abnormal sexual feedback loop that causes people to become lodged in an endless pursuit of wankery, sometimes to the extent they mutilate themselves in their quest to manifest this fantasy. What you fantasize about to get excited by yourself is an interesting conversation to have with your therapist, but it's not the same as a sexual orientation."

Perfect way to put it.

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That Shaughnee & Francis Shepherd X account only has two posts. The one you cited and another that says the following:

"Indya Moore and Zach Bryan the Country singer are linked to the deaths of Two Spirit Males"

I think that account holder is unwell and not trustworthy.

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I agree

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Just sad, a waste of lives to the trans mutilation and porn cult, this dangerous cult has a lot to answer for.

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Death by car crash seems to express a lot of hatred for the physical body. It seems like they really want to punish it.

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