Of course. It's part of their necessary training for independence. Just leave them to figure out how to change their own nappies, and how to read Goodnight Moon to themselves to woo themselves to sleep.
All her savings are going towards cosmetic surgery - she doesn’t seem to even be aware that Salem could get ill and need actual urgent medical treatment. And that a lot of non medical emergencies could require her to pay out of pocket to care for her baby. It’s so short sighted and one can only hope she will develop a better sense of planning and fiscal responsibility as Salem grows up
Very despondent to find out that Salem has confirm plagiocephaly - especially since the acquired form is easily prevented, hoping her baby has no underlying congenital issue. She deserves to have a healthy life regardless of her mothers poor decision
“The surgery cannot fail, it can only be failed” is such an insightful quote and it comes to mind every time I learn of complications and side effects of gender “medicine “
I opened the New York Times this morning to find an article about detransitioners. Evidently, Chloe Cole spoke at CPAC. Other detransitioners were framed as being pawns of the Republican party. The only people seeing these videos are people who are devotees of the tans faith and people who are routinely ignored.
When this kind of complication is discussed in any public forum, it's addressed from the perspective of how we, as a society, have failed to deliver trans health care that is advanced enough to prevent these sorts of complications.
I'm so far beyond the point of rage that my emotional state regarding the implementation of the trans agenda and the complete and utter dismissal of women as human beings in our culture that my default emotional state regarding this issue has devolved into a kind of functional catatonia.
I have nothing. No compassion, no disgust, no alarm, just the leaden observance of the fact that hundreds of thousands of young women are convinced that self-mutilation will allow them to achieve a level of widespread acceptance and affirmation that would not be available to them as intact women. I'm just about through menopause now and I ask myself daily; do I care about these women? Do I care about this trend? My focus is shifting to making sure my income can allow me to leapfrog the health care bottleneck they are creating for my own benefit and the benefit of my husband.
We have enough money to migrate to England or a country in the EU.. That's the first step in building a safety net. Now we need enough money to afford private health care. A lot of my energy is going toward making that a reality.
I am telling you this because I tend to be a bellwether. If I'm feeling this now, then soon, this is going to be how the majority of older feminists feel.
I don't care what happens to these women anymore. I don't care what happens to their babies. I agree it's a tragedy, and I would be desperate to help the infant caught in this mess if I were in proximity to this woman. But it is her choice and we have agreed, as a society that voted for expanded access to health care, that she can choose this path.
For that reason, one of my goals is to maintain distance, to never be in proximity to these people. To put it bluntly; it's become a priority to be rich enough that I need never encounter one of these women but not so rich that the AGP activists end up being unavoidable in my social circle. For example; we are museum supporters but we no longer attend major functions at museums. This cuts off some access to business opportunities but there is a level of wealth where you end up face to face with AGP activists no matter how hard you try to avoid it, so we can't be in that income bracket.
I think a lot of women my age are facing the same choices.
This is how wealth inequality becomes a supportable plank in the platform of Conservative political parties. When you've done all you can and you see no results, there comes a point when you must turn to self-preservation. In the US, that means finding a path into the top ten percent. Which means supporting tax policies that allow wealthier people to pay less in taxes. At this point in my life, I am also beginning to understand why an otherwise reasonable person would vote against universal access to health care. I don't want any money going towards this stuff and the one way I know for sure the trans train could be derailed is to make it too expensive for these people to do these things. People are baffled at how Ron DeSantis gets elected. I'm not baffled at all. It's starting to feel like the only way to slow this train wreck down is to defund it.
It's not right. It's not fair but when you have maybe 30 years left on the planet, it's natural to start thinking perhaps you've worked hard enough for long enough without seeing any results. You start thinking maybe it's time you had a little bit of life and happiness to enjoy for yourself before it's time to go. I've started thinking about that.
I completely understand these feelings, priorities and thought processes. I don’t think that this path will be available to me . It’s hard to know what the appropriate response should be.
Marriage is a great help. I've been telling younger women this and they laugh it off but hear me out:
If you ally yourself with another person, then one of you can take a hit in income while you're building up a business or pursuing a project. The other partner continues working and when the business or project can stand without constant attention, you switch places.
I'm not talking about getting married to raise kids, I am talking about getting married to someone, romantic partner or not, so that the two of you can file a joint tax return and devote your energy toward pursuits that will provide you with a financial cushion. Sweat equity is a real thing but you can't take advantage of it if you have to work a regular 9-5.
If you keep your expenses as low as you would have kept them when you were single and you marry someone who is equally committed and ambitious, it is possible to build a nest egg in a decade or less. Middle aged people need to start marrying each other. It's the only path we have to security as we age.
That's not the only benefit either. I would not be alive had I chosen to remain single. I had a health emergency and I did not want to call an ambulance. My husband called one anyway. I came within minutes of dying.
A few years later, he had a health emergency and decided it was not serious. I remembered my own circumstances and got him to a hospital. It was also critical. So even if you're a senior, there are benefits to marriage that are measurable.
If you're an older senior, I think the Golden Girls model of living is a good one. I think positive personal change is always within your reach but social change? Probably not. So I'm focusing on personal change.
Interesting about the business strategy and networking via arts nonprofits and their ideologies. I definitely in the lit realm find it's a tsunami right now.
And FYI, even the most dire scientific projections delineate areas on my continent that are climate havens, places likely to be safe for habitation for the next 50 years. We've invested in two of them.
so then this is a realistic consideration? it is bizarre that due to the great urbanization trend among youth i left my home, which might be a climate haven in the end
My husband has been interested in permaculture since the 80's. We've both been involved in environmental causes/work all our lives. So I can't really distill all of this into a response to a comment but I'll tell give you the short notes version and you can look things up on your own.
Lately there have been a fair number of articles about cities that are predicted to be climate havens. By definition, a city can't be a climate haven because there are too many people in American cities depending on crumbling infrastructure that often has trouble supporting them even in the best times.
Also, areas that are densely populated concentrate heat, and depend on resources brought in from outside the area. I just saw an article that declared Seattle to be a climate haven. It made me laugh. Seattle has had heavier snow and more heat surges in the last five years than they've had in the entire time they've been colonized. Plus, there are earthquakes and sea level rise to consider. Seattle has a million of people being served by an infrastructure that was designed for a hundred of thousand, maybe 250,000. And their infrastructure has not been scaled up as their population has grown.
So the press is just picking places out of a hat as far as I can tell.
What makes a climate refuge is resilience, proximity to emergency services, weather patterns, a strong, diverse, non-industrial, agricultural sector, an educated population, a secure, dedicated, reliable and clean water supply, access to materials and professionals for home maintenance and repair. Social and cultural diversity, there are other things, but this just off the top of my head. We've done the research, we live in a climate haven.
We have harsh winters but the area has always had harsh winters, so we're equipped for winters. We've never had a tornado, earthquake, or any devastating forest fires despite being in an area where there are more trees than people. (knock wood, thank you goddess) There is a high level of concern for the environment and the wilderness that surrounds us in the community. There is wide acceptance for wildlife. We don't try to move bears or moose or deer, we don't poison anything. We have floods but we've always had floods so we know how to manage them. We are not subject to the impact of sea level rise. We do not have much air pollution. The prevailing winds do not bring much air pollution into our area and as wind currents shift they are not likely to shift in this direction.
No one is going to tell you how to do this but yes, it is a realistic consideration and yes, a lot of people are doing it. One way to tell if you've landed in a climate haven is to look around at other residents of the area. Are a lot of climate activists living in your area? A few smart wealthy people? Professionals who work in the sciences? They tend to gravitate to places where it is safe.
We're all going to get extreme weather. We're all going to see damaging storms and heat. The goal is to know how to manage those things and stay out of the path of the worst of it. Oh, and to be in a place where, if the whole supply chain falls apart, you're not likely to notice it much. (which was the case here when we had those Covid problems.) You can get 80% of your weekly grocery order from local farms here. We could live on local food only if we really were determined to do it, and there's enough to go around.
And it can't be so expensive that it only draws rich people or causes you financial anxiety.
If your home was an urban center, like San Francisco, LA, NYC, Boston, D.C., Houston, or any city with a population over 500,000, you didn't leave a climate haven. So you can put your mind at rest there.
it's not. the Sun controls the earth's climate, not humans. i hope it sneezes & wipes out technology. a nice big one that fries all electricity & we all become Amish overnight.
I'm numb, I'm just sick of these narcissistic twerp mutilating themselves without any thought for anyone else because cosmetic surgery comes first. The me me me brigade has an awful lot to answer for. The costs of this abomination are outrageous, it should not be funded by the ordinary people trying to get health care not cosmetic crap. That funding must be stopped immediately then we will see if the lack of money forces those doctors who have made a livelihood out of mutilation to go out of business. Or become actual doctors as opposed to cosmetic mutilators, I would not go near a doctor who had performed this mutilation because I would not be sure if I would be getting inflated bills to pay for this crap, or of the actual qualifications of them being able to do the work I need
2) no child sails thru without needing to see a doc, at least 1 ER visit (hopefully minor) .. or much more. our girls were so active & curious we had ER insurance just for them. HOW is this crazy girl going to take care of her child as she grows & medical attention becomes more complicated ?
I'm so very sad for the baby. Thank you Exulansic for making a record of these events. Surgeries all totally avoidable to begin with ; this girl does not know she's on a road to nowhere. The ' T community' watch , a strange voyeurism. Only time will tell.
i'm sure she has a T-taking cheering section that, in reality, consists of viewers whose personal responses may become more complex and ambivalent as time goes on. but we'll continue to get the updates, because public vlog journal has become a central part of this woman's life.
The young woman seems so very articulate and intelligent. Why are these young people doing this to themselves? They are so determined to destroy themselves and the medical profiteers are just eating them alive. Too sad to believe sometimes.
This is just monstrous. This woman is going to end up physically disabled and deeply in debt with a baby she never wanted. I’m seriously concerned she’s going to end up committing suicide (and then it will be blamed on “TERFs” and not the barbaric medical procedures). The fact that she can’t say with a straight face “this is my first complication” is mind blowing. She’s had nothing BUT complications!! And the pride stickers...just chilling really. This ideology is literally destroying her body and she’s still enamored. It’s like a North Korean child drawing pictures of the Leader. “I love you still, no matter how much you make me suffer for you!”
No need to insult the name of the child. Plenty of horrific things here. A name is a name. I went to high school with a guy named, literally, "Blade X Cross". He was a great guy with loving Catholic parents who happened to love heavy metal! The surgeries and naviety and narcissism are worthy of horror & maybe even derision, not the child's name.
I'm sure the baby is doing just fine. They can take care of themselves at that age, right? I'm sure she thinks so
For sure, all they need are some cheerios thrown at them every now and then.
Of course. It's part of their necessary training for independence. Just leave them to figure out how to change their own nappies, and how to read Goodnight Moon to themselves to woo themselves to sleep.
Well I mean kids can choose their gender while still in the womb according to these people so🤷🏼♀️
I'm flabbergasted at the self absorption.
All her savings are going towards cosmetic surgery - she doesn’t seem to even be aware that Salem could get ill and need actual urgent medical treatment. And that a lot of non medical emergencies could require her to pay out of pocket to care for her baby. It’s so short sighted and one can only hope she will develop a better sense of planning and fiscal responsibility as Salem grows up
Very despondent to find out that Salem has confirm plagiocephaly - especially since the acquired form is easily prevented, hoping her baby has no underlying congenital issue. She deserves to have a healthy life regardless of her mothers poor decision
Finally found the source video and will include it in the updated version that goes on main
https://twitter.com/TTExulansic/status/1633337088446988289?t=WmE6lR_5qsmt7VqSA0t-Xg&s=19
does this child have a physical defect attributable to mother's self-medication with T et al?
“The surgery cannot fail, it can only be failed” is such an insightful quote and it comes to mind every time I learn of complications and side effects of gender “medicine “
I opened the New York Times this morning to find an article about detransitioners. Evidently, Chloe Cole spoke at CPAC. Other detransitioners were framed as being pawns of the Republican party. The only people seeing these videos are people who are devotees of the tans faith and people who are routinely ignored.
When this kind of complication is discussed in any public forum, it's addressed from the perspective of how we, as a society, have failed to deliver trans health care that is advanced enough to prevent these sorts of complications.
I'm so far beyond the point of rage that my emotional state regarding the implementation of the trans agenda and the complete and utter dismissal of women as human beings in our culture that my default emotional state regarding this issue has devolved into a kind of functional catatonia.
I have nothing. No compassion, no disgust, no alarm, just the leaden observance of the fact that hundreds of thousands of young women are convinced that self-mutilation will allow them to achieve a level of widespread acceptance and affirmation that would not be available to them as intact women. I'm just about through menopause now and I ask myself daily; do I care about these women? Do I care about this trend? My focus is shifting to making sure my income can allow me to leapfrog the health care bottleneck they are creating for my own benefit and the benefit of my husband.
We have enough money to migrate to England or a country in the EU.. That's the first step in building a safety net. Now we need enough money to afford private health care. A lot of my energy is going toward making that a reality.
I am telling you this because I tend to be a bellwether. If I'm feeling this now, then soon, this is going to be how the majority of older feminists feel.
I don't care what happens to these women anymore. I don't care what happens to their babies. I agree it's a tragedy, and I would be desperate to help the infant caught in this mess if I were in proximity to this woman. But it is her choice and we have agreed, as a society that voted for expanded access to health care, that she can choose this path.
For that reason, one of my goals is to maintain distance, to never be in proximity to these people. To put it bluntly; it's become a priority to be rich enough that I need never encounter one of these women but not so rich that the AGP activists end up being unavoidable in my social circle. For example; we are museum supporters but we no longer attend major functions at museums. This cuts off some access to business opportunities but there is a level of wealth where you end up face to face with AGP activists no matter how hard you try to avoid it, so we can't be in that income bracket.
I think a lot of women my age are facing the same choices.
This is how wealth inequality becomes a supportable plank in the platform of Conservative political parties. When you've done all you can and you see no results, there comes a point when you must turn to self-preservation. In the US, that means finding a path into the top ten percent. Which means supporting tax policies that allow wealthier people to pay less in taxes. At this point in my life, I am also beginning to understand why an otherwise reasonable person would vote against universal access to health care. I don't want any money going towards this stuff and the one way I know for sure the trans train could be derailed is to make it too expensive for these people to do these things. People are baffled at how Ron DeSantis gets elected. I'm not baffled at all. It's starting to feel like the only way to slow this train wreck down is to defund it.
It's not right. It's not fair but when you have maybe 30 years left on the planet, it's natural to start thinking perhaps you've worked hard enough for long enough without seeing any results. You start thinking maybe it's time you had a little bit of life and happiness to enjoy for yourself before it's time to go. I've started thinking about that.
This is how Republicans win elections.
I completely understand these feelings, priorities and thought processes. I don’t think that this path will be available to me . It’s hard to know what the appropriate response should be.
Marriage is a great help. I've been telling younger women this and they laugh it off but hear me out:
If you ally yourself with another person, then one of you can take a hit in income while you're building up a business or pursuing a project. The other partner continues working and when the business or project can stand without constant attention, you switch places.
I'm not talking about getting married to raise kids, I am talking about getting married to someone, romantic partner or not, so that the two of you can file a joint tax return and devote your energy toward pursuits that will provide you with a financial cushion. Sweat equity is a real thing but you can't take advantage of it if you have to work a regular 9-5.
If you keep your expenses as low as you would have kept them when you were single and you marry someone who is equally committed and ambitious, it is possible to build a nest egg in a decade or less. Middle aged people need to start marrying each other. It's the only path we have to security as we age.
That's not the only benefit either. I would not be alive had I chosen to remain single. I had a health emergency and I did not want to call an ambulance. My husband called one anyway. I came within minutes of dying.
A few years later, he had a health emergency and decided it was not serious. I remembered my own circumstances and got him to a hospital. It was also critical. So even if you're a senior, there are benefits to marriage that are measurable.
If you're an older senior, I think the Golden Girls model of living is a good one. I think positive personal change is always within your reach but social change? Probably not. So I'm focusing on personal change.
Thanks for your thoughtful response!
Interesting about the business strategy and networking via arts nonprofits and their ideologies. I definitely in the lit realm find it's a tsunami right now.
Climate collapse is underway. None of us have 30 years left.
All the more reason to adopt my current stance.
And FYI, even the most dire scientific projections delineate areas on my continent that are climate havens, places likely to be safe for habitation for the next 50 years. We've invested in two of them.
I have thought this through. I am not kidding.
so then this is a realistic consideration? it is bizarre that due to the great urbanization trend among youth i left my home, which might be a climate haven in the end
My husband has been interested in permaculture since the 80's. We've both been involved in environmental causes/work all our lives. So I can't really distill all of this into a response to a comment but I'll tell give you the short notes version and you can look things up on your own.
Lately there have been a fair number of articles about cities that are predicted to be climate havens. By definition, a city can't be a climate haven because there are too many people in American cities depending on crumbling infrastructure that often has trouble supporting them even in the best times.
Also, areas that are densely populated concentrate heat, and depend on resources brought in from outside the area. I just saw an article that declared Seattle to be a climate haven. It made me laugh. Seattle has had heavier snow and more heat surges in the last five years than they've had in the entire time they've been colonized. Plus, there are earthquakes and sea level rise to consider. Seattle has a million of people being served by an infrastructure that was designed for a hundred of thousand, maybe 250,000. And their infrastructure has not been scaled up as their population has grown.
So the press is just picking places out of a hat as far as I can tell.
What makes a climate refuge is resilience, proximity to emergency services, weather patterns, a strong, diverse, non-industrial, agricultural sector, an educated population, a secure, dedicated, reliable and clean water supply, access to materials and professionals for home maintenance and repair. Social and cultural diversity, there are other things, but this just off the top of my head. We've done the research, we live in a climate haven.
We have harsh winters but the area has always had harsh winters, so we're equipped for winters. We've never had a tornado, earthquake, or any devastating forest fires despite being in an area where there are more trees than people. (knock wood, thank you goddess) There is a high level of concern for the environment and the wilderness that surrounds us in the community. There is wide acceptance for wildlife. We don't try to move bears or moose or deer, we don't poison anything. We have floods but we've always had floods so we know how to manage them. We are not subject to the impact of sea level rise. We do not have much air pollution. The prevailing winds do not bring much air pollution into our area and as wind currents shift they are not likely to shift in this direction.
No one is going to tell you how to do this but yes, it is a realistic consideration and yes, a lot of people are doing it. One way to tell if you've landed in a climate haven is to look around at other residents of the area. Are a lot of climate activists living in your area? A few smart wealthy people? Professionals who work in the sciences? They tend to gravitate to places where it is safe.
We're all going to get extreme weather. We're all going to see damaging storms and heat. The goal is to know how to manage those things and stay out of the path of the worst of it. Oh, and to be in a place where, if the whole supply chain falls apart, you're not likely to notice it much. (which was the case here when we had those Covid problems.) You can get 80% of your weekly grocery order from local farms here. We could live on local food only if we really were determined to do it, and there's enough to go around.
And it can't be so expensive that it only draws rich people or causes you financial anxiety.
If your home was an urban center, like San Francisco, LA, NYC, Boston, D.C., Houston, or any city with a population over 500,000, you didn't leave a climate haven. So you can put your mind at rest there.
it's not. the Sun controls the earth's climate, not humans. i hope it sneezes & wipes out technology. a nice big one that fries all electricity & we all become Amish overnight.
Healing does not bode well for this naive , desperate young woman.
This is Tragedy playing out with every word she speaks.
I'm numb, I'm just sick of these narcissistic twerp mutilating themselves without any thought for anyone else because cosmetic surgery comes first. The me me me brigade has an awful lot to answer for. The costs of this abomination are outrageous, it should not be funded by the ordinary people trying to get health care not cosmetic crap. That funding must be stopped immediately then we will see if the lack of money forces those doctors who have made a livelihood out of mutilation to go out of business. Or become actual doctors as opposed to cosmetic mutilators, I would not go near a doctor who had performed this mutilation because I would not be sure if I would be getting inflated bills to pay for this crap, or of the actual qualifications of them being able to do the work I need
her family is obviously helping financially. shame on them. this girl is so mentally sick that NO ELECTIVE SURGERY should be approved.
2) no child sails thru without needing to see a doc, at least 1 ER visit (hopefully minor) .. or much more. our girls were so active & curious we had ER insurance just for them. HOW is this crazy girl going to take care of her child as she grows & medical attention becomes more complicated ?
I'm so very sad for the baby. Thank you Exulansic for making a record of these events. Surgeries all totally avoidable to begin with ; this girl does not know she's on a road to nowhere. The ' T community' watch , a strange voyeurism. Only time will tell.
i'm sure she has a T-taking cheering section that, in reality, consists of viewers whose personal responses may become more complex and ambivalent as time goes on. but we'll continue to get the updates, because public vlog journal has become a central part of this woman's life.
The young woman seems so very articulate and intelligent. Why are these young people doing this to themselves? They are so determined to destroy themselves and the medical profiteers are just eating them alive. Too sad to believe sometimes.
A “goodie bag” full of fun items to care for an open wound. Salem, can you say deranged, attention seeking surgery addict?
Mechanical breakdown? Did the surgeon implant actual clock-weights?
A Clockwork Oranges
Best comment tonight!
Clockwork Kumquats, more like!
This all is so unbelievably upsetting.
This is just monstrous. This woman is going to end up physically disabled and deeply in debt with a baby she never wanted. I’m seriously concerned she’s going to end up committing suicide (and then it will be blamed on “TERFs” and not the barbaric medical procedures). The fact that she can’t say with a straight face “this is my first complication” is mind blowing. She’s had nothing BUT complications!! And the pride stickers...just chilling really. This ideology is literally destroying her body and she’s still enamored. It’s like a North Korean child drawing pictures of the Leader. “I love you still, no matter how much you make me suffer for you!”
*can say with a straight face
Is the baby actually called 'Salem'? Jees Louise, what a start in life...
No need to insult the name of the child. Plenty of horrific things here. A name is a name. I went to high school with a guy named, literally, "Blade X Cross". He was a great guy with loving Catholic parents who happened to love heavy metal! The surgeries and naviety and narcissism are worthy of horror & maybe even derision, not the child's name.
But 'tis a by-word for mass-hysteria, injustice, superstition and death. Not good!