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Frances Bucher's avatar

Where are your fairy pronouns Ex? New pronouns for every look to match the internal feeling with how you want to be perceived 🤣

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trudie63's avatar

Loving the look Ex, you look great, the dress is really pretty

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Emma P33L's avatar

Recipe for Disaster.

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Joan's avatar

What a stunner Ex!

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Christine Muldoon's avatar

"[S]o sometimes people's curiosity can mean that they're also multiples, they just haven't heard anyone talk about it!" Doesn't "anyone" sound wrong in this context? It calls for a neologism: anyfew, anysome, anynumber?

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Cheezguy's avatar

That would be most consistent! I presume someone (or somesome) could argue that it would only be one of their personas speaking at any given time, but if that were the case it would also preclude the need to use plural pronouns in reference to themselves, as perhaps they should only be referred to as each of their individual personas. And if there is, in fact, a need to have identifiers that reference the entire cohort, wouldn't that imply that there is a unifying thread linking them all, and that they aren't actually separate, unique individuals? Just aspects of the same singular person that have been overemphasized

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David Williams's avatar

You-allsome...

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I knew someone who was diagnosed DID. What I noticed- an intensely enmeshed therapist that had been providing them free sessions once a week for around a decade.

I also noticed intense self-centeredness. Like an inability to appreciate that others had needs or lives. Just a hyper-focus on the self all the time and the belief that they should be extensively accommodated in all situations, no matter how ludicrous. I honestly wanted this person to have to go do one thing for someone else, go pick up some trash or sort cans at a food bank or literally anything to help others.

I saw “switching” and it really looked like a performance, conveniently timed to avoid situations that required maturity or social effort.

This person had been extremely abused and my heart broke for them, but they were given this diagnosis that effectively stunted their growing up. They’d never held a job, paid a bill, dated, or been in environments that cause people to grow through social feedback.

A very smart and talented person, too, just turned permanently inward, living a very small life after being put on a very specific track.

I’m highly skeptical of the existence of DID, but I do think a DID diagnosis should take major body modification off the table. If we are to believe it’s a real condition, then by definition, these people are not well enough to consent to such a thing.

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T A's avatar

Beautiful dress - it really fits well, the back was as interesting as the front - love the blue color.

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Margie's avatar

Love your videos, Ex, but does anyone else have issues with the Substack app or website when watching the videos? Mine will pause randomly and it won't start again. I have to restart and reload everything

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Erin King's avatar

I don't have this issue with the mobile website, but I have it with the app, and it drives me nuts!

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Ali's avatar

Possible issues with the video around 30:29. Overlap of the next person on top of your face, and then all black with only that person's audio. Anyone else have this issue?

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Exulansic's avatar

Thank you, I'll have a look and if necessary burn and reupload

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T A's avatar

Exulansic - I really hope that one day, you will be talking to a congressional hearing - your knowledge about brain injuries and making decisions or consent for hormone blockers, opposite sex hormones, and body modification surgeries is so necessary to changing policies in government agencies such as HHS Health and Human Services which affects our health care system on a national level. Your compassion combined with your personal and medical insight is invaluable. I am so glad you value your integrity more than using that knowledge to exploit others the way some mental health professionals, endocrinologists and surgeons have in order to make their fortunes from Gender Affirming Care which has and or will cause medical problems for the rest of the lives of their patients. Thank you for having compassion and integrity.

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crazy fucking female's avatar

one of the smartest pieces of advice i ever heard from isaac “cluniac” uncooked was “if you have a mental disorder, DO NOT seek community online with other people who have it. nothing good will come of it! find community some other way.”

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Nameless's avatar

I appreciate you talking about this issue with such care and nuance. Around 2018 I experienced a bit of a nervous breakdown where I experienced myself out of control of my own body or “multiple people” where it felt like my brain would tell me things and I wasn’t in control of what I was thinking, or that it was somehow seperate from me in some way. This is a very real way of perceiving oneself and can be very damaging and panic inducing. For me it was a result of extreme stress and anxiety. Sometimes I still get freaked out/sent into panic attacks at the sensation of feeling like my body isn’t mine etc. dissociations root cause is ANXIETY. These people need treatment for their anxiety and PTSD, not surgery!

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Exulansic's avatar

I didn't overcome my stutter (which is still very much a thing that's audible at several points in this video) until I realized much of my speech output wasn't 'me,' but what I thought other people expected of whoever I thought they thought I was to them. That's a lot of excess RAM utilization. I had to step forward and into myself.

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Midgimoon's avatar

You look ethereal and lovely!

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Aurem's avatar

Oliver Sacks said everyone could benefit from gardening and music.

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Gayle R's avatar

Why assume that the DID-claimer is telling the truth? There's been a rash of faux Tourettes's patients. All these angsties are looking for a promotable disability and an audience.

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Exulansic's avatar

Because I don't know an internal experience EXCEPT my own, and my own is unusual so I've been told.

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Kitty Purusual's avatar

I LOVE that dress. And wouldn’t you know it, within less than a millisecond I was able to tell beyond a doubt it was being worn by a female person and not a female impersonator!

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Exulansic's avatar

Yes

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