OMG. Mothers like this need to be locked up.! What kind of mother can smile like her while actively supporting the castration and sterilisation of her child ? It's absolutely disgusting, and actual child abuse on a massive scale.Everybody who promotes and supports this horror should be in jail ,including lily livered politicians who vote for laws which facilitate this child mutilating practice. God help the children and the caring parents of this world ! Thanks for showing this x
Sinister af. The hyperfeminine woman preens whilst exhibiting how she is permanently disfiguring and stripping away her own daughter's femininity. It's snow white but the wicked queen is turning snow white into the prematurely aged, desexualised witch via the poisoned apple
Groomer of the first order, mother needs locking up, she's embarrassing the hell out of the girl and force teaming her too. Cps needs a report on the abuse mum is treating the kid to. She is an absolute disgrace, its heartbreaking 💔 to see the girl with zero interest, zero need, and zero trans need
WTF!!! I’m without words. I would die before doing that to my daughter (I do have a daughter, she’s 8). Where the hell is that father!!?? The girl will be altered for ever!!! This is pure evil. If I was a christian I’d say it’s demonic.
oh my god. i feel like i want to call my own mother and tell her i love her. i hope she never sees this. she would have torn her own tongue out of her face before she called 14-year-old me “hot”.
Almost unbearable. I "struggled bussed" through this.
And that sounds just as ridiculous coming from me as it does from that "mother." Ridiculous, age-inappropriate slang appearing in an adult's day-to-day conversation is a red flag for me. She doesn't take this daughter seriously, doesn't see her as a person but rather as an accessory or maybe a pet, like a hamster. No one who ever lived with a cat or a dog would treat their pet this way.
My guess is, the parents are divorced and this is the mother's "fuck you" to Dad. She is ruining his daughter and there's nothing he can do about it. This scene has been repeated with some frequency, unfortunately. We talk about "sisterhood" among women a lot but I don't feel any kinship with this women, nor with the millions like her. Guess I'm stuck being one of those feminists who judges women on their actions and rejects about half of us for being part of the problem.
I agree with your assessment of the woman's motivations re: divorce. I did however want to state that the first time I heard the phrase "struggle bus" was in 2013 from a Gen X friend who was 36 years old. I am now 38 and my twin sister just said the phrase the other day when I asked her how she was feeling after a chemo infusion: "I'm on the struggle bus" was her reply. I'm sure I've heard the phrase at other moments in my life that have since escaped my memory. I would therefore posit that there is nothing specifically generation-coded about that particular slang phrase that would raise alarm bells when someone not in Gen Alpha utters it.
Remember when people used to say "cool beans?" Maybe your friend, who had cancer, used that once or twice in a situation where it seemed absolutely perfect and you remembered that and said to yourself, "slang is part of language, it's fine that she used that turn of phrase"
And probably, the cancer thing made you more charitable about it, or maybe it was the fact that she only used it once, I dunno. Or maybe you are just the kind of person who thinks having cancer excuses everything and it would not have mattered to you if your poor struggling friend who was bravely making her way along the struggle road, on the struggle bus used the phrase "cool beans" in every second sentence. That's fine. That's you.
But no matter what you may have thought or may think about a particular turn of phrase or how uber-cool you are to have heard it a few years, even ten years (wow! you're a hep cat!) before it passed into common parlance and became little more than a splinter in the palm of very conversation, the fact that someone who feels an inner compulsion to use current slang in every second sentence is telling you something about themselves and it is not typically what they think they're telling you.
Desperate attempts to use language that makes you seem current or hip or colorful, despite the fact that it's not a phrase you coined, is a sign of someone who needs or wants or thinks they deserve more attention than they are getting. It tells you they think you should think they're cool and hip and current and valuable. I don't want to go any further into it than this because it's boring to have to explain this kind of thing to people who simply can not get it.
Why are you being so snarky? Why on earth would you come to the conclusion that I believe myself to be "uber-cool" because an older friend I lived with ten years ago used a phrase that stuck in my mind?
Did you actually read what I wrote? I didn't say that friend had cancer, I said my twin sister was on chemo. She is on chemo not for cancer but for an autoimmune condition. The drug is called golimubab and it is a chemotherapeutic infusion. She stated "I'm kinda on the struggle bus" when I asked her how she was doing post infusion. I'm sure you agree it would be heinous to pick apart a loved ones syntax or jargon while they are unwell!
I'm really confused as to your vituperous aside where you say "wow, you're such a hep-cat!" That was pretty sarcastic and mean, and I'm not quite sure what I did to deserve it. Was it because I disagreed with you? I truly meant no disrespect.
What do you mean by "the kind of person who thinks cancer excuses things?" Why on earth would I pick apart the language someone sick with anything uses to describe how they are feeling that day, particularly if I am there to help them out?
Ten years ago I moved into a house that a family friend owned after I moved back home from a job I hated across the country. A family friend had purchased a home from another family member, and offered me very cheap rent as my parents had also moved. She was a special education teacher and I was a prep cook and a dishwasher. Neither of us were "hep cats"; we certainly weren't jazz musicians from the beatnik Era!
Your thesis is that this mother--who again, I AGREED with you regarding her character which is sinister at best--uses slang as a verbal signifier. Your thinking, as I understand it, is that she uses that phrase much like one might wear one of those hideous pronoun pins-- to communicate to others how they wish to be seen. I appreciate this assessment, though I still think it worthwhile to point out that not ALL people who use the SAME argot EMPLOY it toward the same specific end. And some of those ends may be unconscious. You may well be right about this woman.
I wish you hadn't have gone out of your way to try and make me feel hurt/ashamed/ embarrassed in your initial reply (I felt a bit hurt, so good job, but not embarrassed or ashamed as I don't think I've done anything wrong in my reply. I think I was quite respectful. If you wanted to point out something I said that you found disrespectful, I'll happily offer my apologies and sincere regret.
Sweet Jesus, I don't know what you said to deserve that reply. I am gobsmacked (sorry don't know what generation that is from lol) at such a response. Hope your sister finally got some relief after her infusion. I get a monthly chemotherapeutic infusion for my MS. I am sometimes "kinda on the struggle bus" post infusion. Take good care and have a good weekend!
Look, if you have an actual point to make, that's fine. Your anecdotal cancer story is not relevant and I don't care about it.
Then you get on this thread and tone police and browbeat me just as hard as you possibly can. So no, I am not reading any more of this and I don't care what you think about my tone.
You don't get to parent me or shepherd me or whatever the fuck it is you think you're doing, and drawing on a relative who is a cancer patient is manipulation in order to buy yourself some extra leverage. I don't go for that.
The use of archaic slang was to make a point about how utterly stupid your original point was.
And no, I am not sorry. Call all your little girlie friends to gang up on my and bleat about being kind. I don't care.
Why do you keep claiming that I said my relative has cancer? I said my sister is in chemotherapy infusions for an autoimmune disease.
Can you explain how I was "browbeating you?" I'm extraordinarily confused. I swear I wasn't trying to do those things you said, parent or shepherd you? My original comment, if you recall, expressed agreement with your assessment of the mother's character. All I did was share ancectodal information about two instances a decade apart where I heard the particular slang phrase in question.
I take a bit of umbrage at your assessment of my character. I never once claimed I was hip or uber cool or any of that. I just wish I knew why you were responding to me in such a manner as I truly am confused as to what I did that was so upsetting to you???
Who are "my little girly friends?" I really am just very perplexed as to what is going on here.
Cancer, chemo, whatever. If the story is not relevant and it's being used to shoehorn in a claim to cultural superiority (passive aggressive and meek as it was) then I am not going to be soft spoken or kind in return.
We all have our health issues, some are dire, some not so much. What we don't do, if we are people who understand that we don't know everything about anything, is chime in to say "NOT ALL MEN." Or the equivalent of that, which is exactly what your comment, beyond. the first line, was doing.
Then there's the long, drawn out, "reasonable" reply.
No, I'm not going for that either.
If your feelings are hurt, then you have two choices: give me a wide berth or stay on topic and stop trying to subtly shame people like me for overlooking your twin sister when I've never met her and never, ever, will.
You claimed that only one type of person from a specific generation uses that particular phrase. I stated a fact that two people I know who are from two disparate generations have used said phrase, ten years apart. I say that because I think it is a mistake to assume that all specific linguistic habits are markers of particularly sinister behaviors on the part of the speaker. You ascribe all of these motivations to me that are untrue, and I wish you would stop. I hold no ill will toward you and I wish I knew why you seem to have it toward me.
This is what a DeDe Blanchard looks like today. She’s staring at herself in the monitor and mugging as she’s egging her clearly embarrassed daughter on to lifetime medical problems.
the 'you are going to be hot' sentence, while creepy, is also a direct message of 'you are not hot now, you are not attractive now'. a great way to look supportive while cutting down the poor kid's self esteem.
Radwitch I agree with you - telling her daughter she will be hot - is gross - it is just as disgusting as when Trump said his daughter was hot and if she wasn't his daughter, he would date her - YUCK, YUCK, YUCK.
this could be an act of revenge on the father to punish him by permanently disfiguring and disabling their child. while turning him into the villain if he objects.
OMG. Mothers like this need to be locked up.! What kind of mother can smile like her while actively supporting the castration and sterilisation of her child ? It's absolutely disgusting, and actual child abuse on a massive scale.Everybody who promotes and supports this horror should be in jail ,including lily livered politicians who vote for laws which facilitate this child mutilating practice. God help the children and the caring parents of this world ! Thanks for showing this x
Sinister af. The hyperfeminine woman preens whilst exhibiting how she is permanently disfiguring and stripping away her own daughter's femininity. It's snow white but the wicked queen is turning snow white into the prematurely aged, desexualised witch via the poisoned apple
I wonder how much this girl chose, consciously or not, to not be feminine in order to personally distance herself from how her mother is.
That is probably the source of whatever dysphoria she may be feeling. Anything to distance herself from the woman her mother is.
Groomer of the first order, mother needs locking up, she's embarrassing the hell out of the girl and force teaming her too. Cps needs a report on the abuse mum is treating the kid to. She is an absolute disgrace, its heartbreaking 💔 to see the girl with zero interest, zero need, and zero trans need
Ah - a Munchausens mother.
Normalizing child abuse with the full support of the medical industrial complex.
WTF!!! I’m without words. I would die before doing that to my daughter (I do have a daughter, she’s 8). Where the hell is that father!!?? The girl will be altered for ever!!! This is pure evil. If I was a christian I’d say it’s demonic.
It is demonic. It’s pure evil.
oh my god. i feel like i want to call my own mother and tell her i love her. i hope she never sees this. she would have torn her own tongue out of her face before she called 14-year-old me “hot”.
yes. super inappropriate.
Extremely disturbing behavior by the mother. You gave a great analysis.
Almost unbearable. I "struggled bussed" through this.
And that sounds just as ridiculous coming from me as it does from that "mother." Ridiculous, age-inappropriate slang appearing in an adult's day-to-day conversation is a red flag for me. She doesn't take this daughter seriously, doesn't see her as a person but rather as an accessory or maybe a pet, like a hamster. No one who ever lived with a cat or a dog would treat their pet this way.
My guess is, the parents are divorced and this is the mother's "fuck you" to Dad. She is ruining his daughter and there's nothing he can do about it. This scene has been repeated with some frequency, unfortunately. We talk about "sisterhood" among women a lot but I don't feel any kinship with this women, nor with the millions like her. Guess I'm stuck being one of those feminists who judges women on their actions and rejects about half of us for being part of the problem.
I agree with your assessment of the woman's motivations re: divorce. I did however want to state that the first time I heard the phrase "struggle bus" was in 2013 from a Gen X friend who was 36 years old. I am now 38 and my twin sister just said the phrase the other day when I asked her how she was feeling after a chemo infusion: "I'm on the struggle bus" was her reply. I'm sure I've heard the phrase at other moments in my life that have since escaped my memory. I would therefore posit that there is nothing specifically generation-coded about that particular slang phrase that would raise alarm bells when someone not in Gen Alpha utters it.
Where is the "block" button when you need it?
Remember when people used to say "cool beans?" Maybe your friend, who had cancer, used that once or twice in a situation where it seemed absolutely perfect and you remembered that and said to yourself, "slang is part of language, it's fine that she used that turn of phrase"
And probably, the cancer thing made you more charitable about it, or maybe it was the fact that she only used it once, I dunno. Or maybe you are just the kind of person who thinks having cancer excuses everything and it would not have mattered to you if your poor struggling friend who was bravely making her way along the struggle road, on the struggle bus used the phrase "cool beans" in every second sentence. That's fine. That's you.
But no matter what you may have thought or may think about a particular turn of phrase or how uber-cool you are to have heard it a few years, even ten years (wow! you're a hep cat!) before it passed into common parlance and became little more than a splinter in the palm of very conversation, the fact that someone who feels an inner compulsion to use current slang in every second sentence is telling you something about themselves and it is not typically what they think they're telling you.
Desperate attempts to use language that makes you seem current or hip or colorful, despite the fact that it's not a phrase you coined, is a sign of someone who needs or wants or thinks they deserve more attention than they are getting. It tells you they think you should think they're cool and hip and current and valuable. I don't want to go any further into it than this because it's boring to have to explain this kind of thing to people who simply can not get it.
ya dig?
*every* conversation, not "very.
My "E" key is sticking like trump's pudgy fingers on a classified document.
Why are you being so snarky? Why on earth would you come to the conclusion that I believe myself to be "uber-cool" because an older friend I lived with ten years ago used a phrase that stuck in my mind?
Did you actually read what I wrote? I didn't say that friend had cancer, I said my twin sister was on chemo. She is on chemo not for cancer but for an autoimmune condition. The drug is called golimubab and it is a chemotherapeutic infusion. She stated "I'm kinda on the struggle bus" when I asked her how she was doing post infusion. I'm sure you agree it would be heinous to pick apart a loved ones syntax or jargon while they are unwell!
I'm really confused as to your vituperous aside where you say "wow, you're such a hep-cat!" That was pretty sarcastic and mean, and I'm not quite sure what I did to deserve it. Was it because I disagreed with you? I truly meant no disrespect.
What do you mean by "the kind of person who thinks cancer excuses things?" Why on earth would I pick apart the language someone sick with anything uses to describe how they are feeling that day, particularly if I am there to help them out?
Ten years ago I moved into a house that a family friend owned after I moved back home from a job I hated across the country. A family friend had purchased a home from another family member, and offered me very cheap rent as my parents had also moved. She was a special education teacher and I was a prep cook and a dishwasher. Neither of us were "hep cats"; we certainly weren't jazz musicians from the beatnik Era!
Your thesis is that this mother--who again, I AGREED with you regarding her character which is sinister at best--uses slang as a verbal signifier. Your thinking, as I understand it, is that she uses that phrase much like one might wear one of those hideous pronoun pins-- to communicate to others how they wish to be seen. I appreciate this assessment, though I still think it worthwhile to point out that not ALL people who use the SAME argot EMPLOY it toward the same specific end. And some of those ends may be unconscious. You may well be right about this woman.
I wish you hadn't have gone out of your way to try and make me feel hurt/ashamed/ embarrassed in your initial reply (I felt a bit hurt, so good job, but not embarrassed or ashamed as I don't think I've done anything wrong in my reply. I think I was quite respectful. If you wanted to point out something I said that you found disrespectful, I'll happily offer my apologies and sincere regret.
Sweet Jesus, I don't know what you said to deserve that reply. I am gobsmacked (sorry don't know what generation that is from lol) at such a response. Hope your sister finally got some relief after her infusion. I get a monthly chemotherapeutic infusion for my MS. I am sometimes "kinda on the struggle bus" post infusion. Take good care and have a good weekend!
You too. I'm sorry about your MS. Sending healing prayer!
Look, if you have an actual point to make, that's fine. Your anecdotal cancer story is not relevant and I don't care about it.
Then you get on this thread and tone police and browbeat me just as hard as you possibly can. So no, I am not reading any more of this and I don't care what you think about my tone.
You don't get to parent me or shepherd me or whatever the fuck it is you think you're doing, and drawing on a relative who is a cancer patient is manipulation in order to buy yourself some extra leverage. I don't go for that.
The use of archaic slang was to make a point about how utterly stupid your original point was.
And no, I am not sorry. Call all your little girlie friends to gang up on my and bleat about being kind. I don't care.
Can't make it any plainer than that.
Why do you keep claiming that I said my relative has cancer? I said my sister is in chemotherapy infusions for an autoimmune disease.
Can you explain how I was "browbeating you?" I'm extraordinarily confused. I swear I wasn't trying to do those things you said, parent or shepherd you? My original comment, if you recall, expressed agreement with your assessment of the mother's character. All I did was share ancectodal information about two instances a decade apart where I heard the particular slang phrase in question.
I take a bit of umbrage at your assessment of my character. I never once claimed I was hip or uber cool or any of that. I just wish I knew why you were responding to me in such a manner as I truly am confused as to what I did that was so upsetting to you???
Who are "my little girly friends?" I really am just very perplexed as to what is going on here.
I don't think this character that is berating you is on the same plane of reality as the rest of us
Cancer, chemo, whatever. If the story is not relevant and it's being used to shoehorn in a claim to cultural superiority (passive aggressive and meek as it was) then I am not going to be soft spoken or kind in return.
We all have our health issues, some are dire, some not so much. What we don't do, if we are people who understand that we don't know everything about anything, is chime in to say "NOT ALL MEN." Or the equivalent of that, which is exactly what your comment, beyond. the first line, was doing.
Then there's the long, drawn out, "reasonable" reply.
No, I'm not going for that either.
If your feelings are hurt, then you have two choices: give me a wide berth or stay on topic and stop trying to subtly shame people like me for overlooking your twin sister when I've never met her and never, ever, will.
You claimed that only one type of person from a specific generation uses that particular phrase. I stated a fact that two people I know who are from two disparate generations have used said phrase, ten years apart. I say that because I think it is a mistake to assume that all specific linguistic habits are markers of particularly sinister behaviors on the part of the speaker. You ascribe all of these motivations to me that are untrue, and I wish you would stop. I hold no ill will toward you and I wish I knew why you seem to have it toward me.
you are mistaking me for someone who cares about your sister.
Perfect response to Colbert 's stick where he learned new slang words and uses them wrong
This is what a DeDe Blanchard looks like today. She’s staring at herself in the monitor and mugging as she’s egging her clearly embarrassed daughter on to lifetime medical problems.
Heartbreaking! that poor child.
the 'you are going to be hot' sentence, while creepy, is also a direct message of 'you are not hot now, you are not attractive now'. a great way to look supportive while cutting down the poor kid's self esteem.
I thought the same thing! Seriously, this poor girl should be told that's she's beautiful as she is!
Radwitch I agree with you - telling her daughter she will be hot - is gross - it is just as disgusting as when Trump said his daughter was hot and if she wasn't his daughter, he would date her - YUCK, YUCK, YUCK.
Wow. This woman is super creepy. Who tf talks about their child being "hot"? 😬 Creepy grooming.
this could be an act of revenge on the father to punish him by permanently disfiguring and disabling their child. while turning him into the villain if he objects.
Where is CPS?
Encouraging this nonsense, unfortunately
Mothers should not sexualize their children. Jfc